Monday, November 03, 2008

11 Years Together and We Have Nothing To Talk About?

Does this happen to anyone else?

Since my son was born 5 1/2 years ago, my husband and I have gone out together 3 times.

The first - A neighbor's kid's engagement party (my son was about 9 months old).

The second time - We went to a wake (in August).

The third time - Was Saturday when we went out for our 11th Anniversary.

It started out ok. I was confident in our babysitter (my 18 year old niece). We headed to Outback for lunch. The Teach hated it. He said it smelled like "old people." Then we went to Toys R Us and did our first Christmas shop for our children together. After that we headed to Best Buy and Linens and Things. I suggested Border's because it is something we both enjoy but he said "that sounds boring."

After Linens and Things he said, "what do you want to do?" I said, we're right here, why don't we see what is playing at the movies?"

He started driving and when he drove around the mall I asked, "where are we going?" He said, to get gas.

I figured we would get back to the mall. We had an late lunch/early dinner and figured we could have dessert somewhere. After getting gas he started driving away from the mall. So, I again said, "where are we going?" He said, home!

I was shocked and quiet which is my biggest problem and always has been. Another women might have said, "why? We have Manda, let's go to the movies, or let's get drinks, or let's do something." But, I sat quietly wondering and he drove home.


We, like most couples have our ebbs and flows in our relationship and we have been in such a great place for the past 4-5 months. We laugh and joke easily but it seemed like we didn't know how to just be the two of us.

Does this happen to anyone else? How do you move through it?


  1. First off, men tend not to be the brightest crayons in the box. You have to really spell out what you expect from them, lol.

  2. Anonymous7:17 AM

    What the heck was up with THAT?!?!? Sorry you guys didn't have a better time. Running around doing errands always wipes me out, maybe he was tired???

    Now that the kids are a little older, I would totally try to get out alone together at least once a month...even if it's just breakfast or lunch at 'the diner'. Practice makes perfect, right? ;)

    The FEW times Ohio and I have been out, we REFUSE to talk about Muncher. Not that we don't love her or miss her, but we don't want to become so submersed in our roles that we lose touch with the OTHER side of ourselves.

    In any case, ELEVEN YEARS is AWESOME! You guys are obviously doing GREAT to make it this far...CONGRATULATIONS!!


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