Failure To Launch: How Should You Act Around A Friend Struggling To Conceive?

When you’re a mother, your kids fast become your world. You can’t imagine life without those 
extensions of yourself in it. Watching a child grow up is about the most rewarding experience any of
us could ever have. Once you’ve done it, you’ll feel like anyone would be mad not to.

The trouble is that not everyone can. In fact, around 10% of women in the U.S. alone have difficulty
conceiving. That’s approximately 6.1 million women who want babies but can’t have them. That’s 
a pretty large number. Such women often have no choice but to either give up on parenthood or seek 
from surrogacy and donation agencies like ConceiveAbilities. Even if they take the latter option, 
there’s no guarantee they’ll see success.

It can be heartbreaking, and unimaginable for someone who already has a family. Which is why it 
can be difficult when a friend comes to you with issues like these. The chances are that you’ve 
always considered this as ‘something which happens to other people’. It’s one of those problems 
that we always keep one step removed. That’s understandable. Why would you want to consider the
reality of a childless life?

But, if your friend is coming to you with this, it’s because they’re struggling. As such, your reaction 
is essential. As much as you may not understand their struggle, you should do what you can to help 
them along the way. And, you can do so in the following ways.

Tone down the parental gushing

Let’s be honest; us parents like to gush about our children’s achievements. Whether it’s their first 
time using the potty or their first day at high school, we could tell a wall about it if it looked interested.
By all means, you should still share these things with your friend. But, it may be worth considering 
toning this down a little. Despite their struggles, they’ll still want to hear about what’s going on with 
your family. But, if your kids are all you talk about, they could soon find it difficult to be around you.
This may become especially the case if you have a baby. So, go ahead and tell them these things. 
But, tell them and then move on. Don’t do what you usually would, and talk about these things for an
hour or more. That isn’t going to help anyone, least of all the friend in question.

Let them get stuck in with your kids

As much as you shouldn’t talk about your kids ALL THE TIME, don’t be afraid to let your friend get 
stuck in with them. Though you might not think it, doing things with your kids could help to make 
them feel better. Children are the best medicine, after all. Babysitting or playing with your kids will 
probably take their mind off things more than anything else at the moment. And, that alone could give
them a much-needed break. So, rather than locking the door and ushering your children out the 
moment they appear, make room for them. Plan days out where you can all go together. This could 
be about the only thing you do right now which will put a smile on your friend’s face.

Don’t be afraid to ask about it

As with any health issue, you may feel afraid to ask about this after your friend’s initial revelation. You
may think that you have to wait until they bring their struggles up again. Perhaps you feel better not 
talking about this at all. But, as your kids absorb your life, so too will your friend’s lack of success 
here absorb theirs. What’s more, it isn’t always easy for couples going through these things to talk 
about them. As such, your friend is probably desperate to talk about this, but reluctant to burden you.
Let them know that you’re there by bringing this up. Not all the time, of course, but there’s nothing 
wrong with asking how things are going. If your friend doesn’t want to talk about it, you’ll be able to 
tell straight away. They’ll go quiet, or evade your question. More often than not, though, you’ll find the 
news comes pouring out of them. Then, you only have to listen and try to understand.

Helping a friend through issues like these won’t be easy, especially as you’re a mother yourself. But,
by keeping the above points in mind, you can do everything possible to help them at this difficult time. 
And, isn’t that what friends are for?

Visa Teams Up with NY Giants Saquon Barkley + Eli Manning to Launch New Financial Literacy Video Game

Visa Teams Up with the NFL to Tackle Financial Literacy with New Video Game
Visa's new and improved Financial Football video game features more ways to play and learn than ever before

SAN FRANCISCO, CA and EAST RUTHERFORD, NJ – October 17, 2018 – Visa Inc. (NYSE: V), the Official Payment Services Partner of the NFL, today announced the launch of its new and improved Financial Football video game for the 2018 - 2019 NFL season at an event in New Jersey with New York Giants stars, Eli Manning and Saquon Barkley. The free video game lets fans ages 11 and older suit up as a player from their favorite NFL team and play a virtual game of football designed to help students learn to make smart money-management decisions.

Research shows one-in-five teenage students in the U.S. lacks basic financial skills[i]. Forty percent of adults said that if faced with a $400 unexpected expense, they would either not be able to pay it or would do so by selling something or borrowing money[ii]. As new payment methods such as mobile payments, contactless cards and wearables become more prevalent, it underscores the need for financial literacy starting at an early age and continuing into adulthood. 

“Financial Football provides young people in our communities with the tools and understanding of sound money management, helping prepare them for a lifetime of smart financial decisions,” said Marianne Mwaniki, SVP and Head of Social Impact at Visa. “As the world’s leader in digital payments, we are proud to partner with the NFL to combine the excitement of football and financial literacy to bring otherwise difficult money matters to life for students.” 

Financial Football features improved 3D graphics and enhanced game play. It challenges players to answer multiple-choice and true or false questions to advance down the field in order to score a touchdown. New features include:

  • Single player and head-to-head games
  • Three different levels of difficulty: Rookie (ages 11-14), Pro (ages 14-18) and Hall of Fame (ages 18+)
  • Expanded categories include: Budgeting, Saving, Financial Institutions, Credit, Debt, Identity Theft, Life Events
  • The ability to play both offense and defense.  Players can select from over 40 offensive plays, as well as the ability to stop their opponents from advancing by answering a defensive question correctly.
The latest version of Financial Football, makes financial education accessible to everyone, no matter how or where they choose to play. The game is available through iOS and Android apps and online. Visa has joined with 49 state governments and the District of Columbia to distribute copies of the game to middle and high schools in those regions. Visa’s Financial Football can now be played online at or downloaded on any computer or mobile device as a free app.

At MetLife Stadium in New Jersey,  Giants stars, Eli Manning and Saquon Barkley hosted more than 100 high school students on the 50-yard line for the official launch of the new Financial Football video game. The two players coached the head-to-head game competition and led students through skills and drills activities focused on financial education categories.

“Visa’s Financial Football is a fun way for kids and adults to learn about financial literacy and responsibility”, said Eli Manning, the Giants’ veteran quarterback. “Football fans of any age can participate and tackle the important life skill of money management. It’s important we equip our children with that knowledge.” 

The game, which has been played more than 10 million times is available in English and Spanish. To put your financial literacy skills to the test, download Financial Football at:
Visa Inc. (NYSE: V) is the world’s leader in digital payments. Our mission is to connect the world through the most innovative, reliable and secure payment network - enabling individuals, businesses and economies to thrive. Our advanced global processing network, VisaNet, provides secure and reliable payments around the world, and is capable of handling more than 65,000 transaction messages a second. The company’s relentless focus on innovation is a catalyst for the rapid growth of connected commerce on any device, and a driving force behind the dream of a cashless future for everyone, everywhere.  As the world moves from analog to digital, Visa is applying our brand, products, people, network and scale to reshape the future of commerce. For more information, visit, and @VisaNews. 

Trick & Treat K-Cup #GIVEAWAY - Ends 10/31 @javafactory

Guys have you tried Java Factory Trick and Treat Coffee yet?

Having a Halloween Party and looking for a fun coffee to serve? This is the one!

This year I tried Java Factory’s Limited Edition Trick & Treat coffee. Not only was I impressed with the packaging featuring a glowing Jack O' Lantern and black and orange colors but this has all the flavors you associate with the cool fall weather when it comes to coffee. Like all the other Java Factory coffees Trick & Treat is made with 100% Arabica Coffee PLUS the delicious flavors of pumpkin and marshmallow.

When I brought this to work today to share I only brought 6 K-Cups instead of the whole box. The reason is....I truly love this coffee. It is a lovely, light blend that I don't feel bad drinking at night.  I love my milk and creamer but since it is a light coffee I needed to use very little creamer and I did use my strong feature on the Keurig after the first 2 cups if I am drinking during the day which is something that the girls who tried this coffee at work mentioned as well. They LOVE the flavor but felt that if they added what they normally would add to their coffee they would get a VERY light coffee so depending on how you like your coffee I suggest hitting that strong feature for those who like a richer coffee taste. That being said; I think this is a hit especially for those who are sick of or don't like pumpkin spice (BTW...these people do exist, I met a few this month).

This coffee like many other K-Cups from Java Factory is compatible with many single serve brewers as well as my Keurig 2.0. 

With Halloween around the corner I suggest getting a few boxes of this and handing it out to the parents who come Trick Or Treating with their kids this year. 

This is a delicious treat. In fact, I am drinking a cup right now. It is the best way to write a review post about coffee..wish you could try it with me. One of my readers will have the chance at the end of this post.

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Breast Cancer Awareness Month - 40 Pink Pumpkin K-Cup #Giveaway @BrooklynBeanRoastery

Fall is here and one of my favorite Fall coffees is on my radar once again. Brooklyn Bean Roastery Pink Pumpkin is a Limited Edition coffee and is a smooth, mellow, light balanced coffee with a mild pumpkin flavor and a hint of vanilla. I also love the pink pumpkin on the lid of the K-Cup.

I brought the box to work to share with my co-workers and they love it. The conference room smelled amazing as the seasonal fragrance was brewed over and over every time someone came in for coffee.

If you love a light coffee that is good for breakfast, at lunch, after dinner whenever this is the one for you.

BTW a portion of the proceeds go to breast cancer awareness so be sure to drink up!

These K-Cups fit Keurig Coffee Makers and my box of 40 Cups is already gone!  UGH! So happy everyone loved it and I got to share my box with my friends but seriously!? Next time I am taking some out to leave at home! Get yours today at Amazon, Bed Bath and Beyond and many other locations.

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Test Your Smarts with What's In The Box for $5,000 Prize! Goes Live This Wednesday

Are you over HQ, Candy Crush and Bejeweled... but still wanting some extra cash, just in time for the holidays? Have you heard of What's in the Box?  

What's in the Box? is Facebook's latest interactive trivia game! Airing exclusively on Facebook Watch, What’s in the Box? goes live this Wednesday 10/17 and Thursday 10/18 at 7:00 pm ET / 4:00 pm PT.  The host Lisa Deborah Barbara will open eight mystery boxes, inviting contestants to figure out what’s inside the box! Answer correctly and you may win $5,000.  

Since we know you love sharing tips with moms, we thought this show would really resonate with you and your audience! The family-friendly host Lisa Deborah Barbara is a mom herself and each week she opens eight boxes and gives away cash to those who answer correctly
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