Thursday, March 11, 2010

The Undervalued Self - A Review

The Undervalued Self: Restore Your Love/Power Balance, Transform the Inner Voice That Holds You Back, and Find Your True Self-Worth by Elaine N. Aron, PhD

We all feel undervalued at times.

When I was offered the opportunity to review this book through Little Brown part of Hachette Book Group, I thought, do I want to read another self help book? Upon researching Dr. Elaine Aron I was very interested in her take on linking and ranking. 

Product Description From Amazon

Elaine Aron follows up her bestsellers on the highly sensitive person with a groundbreaking new book on the undervalued self. She explains that self-esteem results from having a healthy balance of love and power in our lives. Readers will learn to incorporate love into situations that seem to require power and deal with power struggles that mask themselves as issues of love. From the bedroom to the boardroom, her strategies will enable us to escape feelings of shame, defeat, and depression; dissolve relationship hostility; and become our best selves. With Aron's clear, empathetic writing and extraordinary scientific and human insight, THE UNDERVALUED SELF is a simple and effective guide to developing healthy, fulfilling relationships, and finding true self-worth. 

In A Nutshell: After reading it, I know that I am exactly where I am supposed to be. The Undervalued Self is a great resource that I will continue to return to for many years, in fact, a lot of the pages have been tagged for future reference.

I especially like the active imagination sessions and connecting the past to the cause. If we can retrace our past life experiences we can connect the dots on the present way we think about ourselves.

In chapter five (my absolute favorite chapter, one I wish I could recreate here word for word) is called Linking with the Innocent.  Who is the Innocent? Well, my friend that is YOU! You know, the you before now, before the learned behaviors, attitudes and way of thinking that have brought you to your lowest moments.

Dr. Aron pieces it all together in the most effective way.

This book WILL help you.


  1. Great review!

    I have this one on my shelf to be read. It always help to read faster when someone you know enjoyed it.

  2. Every woman I know undervalues herself, especially the moms. I'd be interested in reading this book to find out if men have this problem to. Sounds interesting!

  3. Sounds like a really interesting book. I definitely agree with Renee that most of us women undervalue ourselves at some point in our lives, if not throughout our entire life. I also agree that the things that happen to us in our past definitely contribute to the way we think of ourselves and can most certainly make us devalue ourselves.
    Thanks for a terrific review, as usual.


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