Friday, March 20, 2009

The Good and The Not So Good Side of Being a SAHM

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These are in no kind of order but today like most days I was hard up for adult companionship.

There are good, and not so good sides to every story. Giving up work to raise children is not something that anyone should go into lightly. When you give up your job you give up all kinds of things.

For me the easiest part of leaving my job was wanting to spend all my time with my babies. I lost my mom at 12 years old and never had a soft place to land. I was out of the house and taking care of myself before I was 17 years old. The hardest part of being a stay at home mom for me was giving up my independence. I didn't think of this at the time because I was more focused on my baby than of myself.

The hardest part of leaving my job; now (almost 5.5 years later) is that I am now 100% dependent on someone. This should be a good thing, and for some, it just might be. For me, it means little respect, no time to myself, having to ask for money to and always feeling as if I am walking on a glass floor that can break at any time.

Looking for work right now, is almost impossible. It means putting the kids in daycare and that is something that doesn't sit well with me. As a child of abuse I am always afraid of what other people will do to my children. My families schedule makes it hard to work also.

In this economy and in life we all need to work I just wish it was easier for me to find work around my children's, mine and my husband's schedule.

The Good Side
  • Spending 24 hours a day with your kids
  • Not having to take time off if they are sick
  • Enjoying the park on a beautiful day
  • Taking them to the free shows my community offer during the day
  • Going to the farms, stores, and parks during the week instead of on the busy weekend
  • Being able to participate in school activities

The Not So Good Side
  • Spending 24 hours with your kids
  • Getting absolutely no respect for what you do
  • Having to ask your significant other for money even if it is to pay the bills
  • Having no moments to yourself (even in the bathroom)
  • Sometimes having no other adult conversation except with your spouse who never has anything to say to you.
I am tired of feeling in inadequate or that I am worth, less because I don't work outside the house.

Stepping off my soap box for the day. I just really needed to get that off my chest.


  1. I CONCUR!!!!!! on all of it. :)

  2. Kim,

    Seriously! Is it too much to ask for a little respect????

    Thanks for concurring with me.


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