I am not so self important to think this is the only way there is to handle anything. I know only what works for me and maybe it will be what works for you too!
Today I was extremely angry at work. Something happened that made me angry! So angry! I am not someone who gets angry so if I am pissed, it has to be something big! I was down right pissed feeling completely disrespected and confused. Unsure as to why someone would go out of their way to make things difficult. Instead of being pissed and talking or spreading the gossip around I went straight to my boss to discuss it openly and honestly in a very, I hope, relaxed manner. I am a firm believer in talking to the person who can fix things or can make a difference. Whenever a co-worker complains to me over work, I always tell them to talk to the boss. I cannot help, if you want real changes go to your boss or in other cases the source that can help you, sometimes that would be the person causing your stress.
As I have got older I try to handle things that bother me head on. I see no reason to not discuss the unsaid. I do not want to waste time focusing on things I have no control over NOR do I want to try to make everyone happy.
Stressors will always be there. Some big, some small. Most of the time I can let stuff roll of my back, today was not one of those days.
Feeling so angry that I couldn't even sit down while I ate lunch I decided that if I waited I would burst and it wouldn't be good, I decided to walk into my bosses office and just let it out.
Thankfully she said all the things I needed to hear at that moment. She was calm, collected, understanding and made me feel like what I was saying mattered and was just. This doesn't mean she truly believes I am 100 percent right but she balanced my emotions enough that I could get through my day without feeling stressed or ready to confront the person who had a problem with me.
When you are feeling stress. Make sure you understand why you are feeling it. Are you feeling it because you are embarrassed, guilty, disrespected? Does the other person fight fair? What is the agenda? Make sure you are not fighting back to belittle or be a step up. Try to understand where the other person is coming from, talk to the person, the source of your stress. If you are not feeling better after talking to someone, anyone, regroup and figure out if you truly know why you are stressed. We are too old to say, I don't know why I am sad, upset, depressed or whatever. Deep down we all truly know. We may not be able to say it or sometimes even put it into words for others but we know!
Do not allow yourself to be consumed by stress, you are worth peace and finding the outlet that allows you to release your negative thoughts is the most important thing you can do for yourself when feeling stress.
Stress or anxiety effects us in so many ways. It not only makes us exhausted but also can contribute to help problems such as obesity, high blood pressure, heart disease, headaches, insomnia and so much more.
With everything we are all dealing with these days the last thing you need is more stress. Do not go it alone. I have always found that talking it over is truly the best thing and today confirms this!
If you need to talk, talk. There will always be someone willing to listen and if you can't I am here too! I may not be able to help but sometimes just getting it off your chest makes all the difference.
Peace be with you!