Letter to My Children - Why You Should Always Be Kind


Letting go of the past is not something that is easy for many. At one time or another it will cross your mind and usually at the strangest time. You will be laughing with a friend, shopping driving, in class, whatever, and suddenly pain and hurt creeps into your subconscious and tries to wrap itself around you momentarily. You push it down and move on hoping that it stays away at least until you are alone.

The pain from ones past can really take a physical and mental toll on you. It manifests in anger, sadness, joint pain, stomach issues, fear and more. Whether dealing with an absentee dad, a meddling mom, drug or alcohol issues, sexual abuse, divorce, bullying; the way we handle these things depends on many things. It depends on our  upbringing, mental state, personal strength, and more. What is hard for me, may be easy for you. No two people are alike and that is the beauty of people.

Every day someone you encounter will be dealing with something you can't even fathom. Maybe they just found out someone they love is sick or they are wondering how they are going to pay the bills this week. Maybe they are waiting on a medical test for themselves or their husband or wife has left them. Perhaps, their car broke down and there is no way to get where they need to go or they have no food or diapers and have kids at home. What I am trying to say is everyone is dealing with something. So try to be gentler, Nonjudgmental, kinder, more gracious, or even just say hello. It may be the only kindness they feel all day. The person smiling at you right now may be in a living hell. Smile back! It's OK! Kindness costs you nothing.

How can you be kinder today?

29 comments:

tat2gurlzrock said...

I was always taught to be kind and treat others as I would wish to be treated.Very important value everyone should teach their children :)

Janet W. said...

Great message. It is always nice to treat others with respect. Just like what was said above, treat others how you'd like to be treated. Kindness goes a long way!

momz said...

Compassion is sadly lacking in our society; thank you for bringing it to light.

lil_lady_dz said...

Kindness is something we our huge on in our household, we teach our kids that kindness is always the best option, it brings back so much good for others and yourself.

BethElderton said...

This is so true. I remember times in my life when someone, even a stranger, was just nice. Not sympathetic, because they had no idea about who I was. Not overly helpful in the sense that I didn't need a ride or a hand lifting something or anything like that. I mean just being nice, courteous, smiling. I hope that my actions towards people are nice like that.

Shelly Peterson said...

I love this post. You are so right when you say kindness costs you nothing. But yet it can mean so much to some one when you show it. I stress so much to my kids how important it is to be kind, polite, helpful people.

Lynda said...

this is definitely worth a read. thanks for sharing!

Julie Wood said...

What a great message. There are others who have suffered so much and when we ad to their pain it makes their life harder. Smile be kind to everyone because it helps bring peace and happiness to the person.

LStewart said...

Thank you for sharing this.

Gale McCarron said...

I certainly live my own life by trying to help others, and have taught my kids the value of being kind to others. To me it's my life's purpose. Hopefully that message is clear to them and its benefits.

Pam Gurganus said...

I was entering one of your giveaways and this was on of the giveaway entries. But I must tell you. I needed to read this more today than you'll ever know. I've found that lately I've been holding on to so much "stuff" that it's been preventing me from being the woman I want to be. Thank you so much for this. You have lifted my heart and I thank you.

James Robert said...

I liked your post and so important. My kids have been taught how important kindness is and they learn at church as well and doing a pretty good job and showing others respect and kindness.

freddie said...

What good advice. The old saying is truth treat others like you want to be treated.

mrsshukra said...

Great advice even adults can use!

Melissa Storms said...

I agree with this post wholeheartedly, and especially with the line that kindness costs you nothing.

Fiddlin' Dandi said...

This is so important--we are working very hard with our son right now teaching him kindness.

anne marie Carter said...

I firmly believe in treating others like you would want to be treated.

Belinda said...

Great post! I always tell my kids, you never know what someone else is dealing with. Have compassion and treat others with kindness. You will never regret it.

Amanda Sakovitz said...

Wonderful message! I'm a believer in this as well.

momo said...

Great advice for all young minds, it is good that they learn this at a young age-

VickeC said...

what a sweet ideal,,I wish I had wrote one for my kids when they were small

Courtney B said...

these are very good words I wish more people would read these words and hear you!!! thanks for sharing!!!

Sandra Watts said...

This is a wonderful post. I was just talking with my son about the importance of being kind to others.

Anonymous said...

What a beautiful post. Yes, it costs nothing to be kind and its a free gift we can share with others. I always want to share kindness with others and I remember how many people were so kind to me along my life journey, especially the cancer one. Its so important to also start teaching our kids this lesson at a young age. They are the future and they will shape it by their actions.
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Emily Endrizzi said...

This is such an important message. I try to keep this in mind every day. Sometimes it is harder than others.

Marnie G (Derrick Todd) said...

Great post! It is so important to teach kids how to be kind. I always say, Treat others the way you want to be treated.

lana simanovicki said...

I was just talking to my children about the same thing

janetfaye said...

Kindness is truly beautiful. A smile or hello lets others feel acknowledged and may make their day a little better. Thanks for your thoughts.

Sandra Watts said...

This is a wonderful post and so true. I always try to think what others may be going through because I know it makes a difference in how people act.

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