Originally posted November 9, 2007
Children can grow up so differently in the same household.
When one hurts the other intentionally or not I tell them how they hurt the other and make them apologize and hug each other. I tell make sure they both know when the other has done something wonderful. “He’s a big boy,” She’s a went on the potty,” “Look what he/she made” etc. If one takes something from the other one and I ask them to please give it back, it is not allowed to be thrown back. It must be handed back nicely. If it is thrown I hand it back to them and ask them to please hand this to your brother/sister.
They definitely think of each other when I hand out snacks. They always take one for the other. I love that about them. I love that they look out for each other. I love that they hold hands when we walk outside. I love that they encourage each other, “You did it Handsome.” or “Good job Goddess.” I love hearing their conversations. “Handsome, can you get that for me? I can’t reach it.” “You want that Goddess? Ok!” “Thank you Handsome.” “You’re welcome Goddess.”
I also love walking into the room the other day and seeing this.
This to me solidifies what I am doing. I was not in the room. This was not to make me or anyone else happy. This was because they like each other. They are 2 & 4 years old and of course they have fights but I can only hope that the love and respect they have for each other now grows and grows.
Is it possible that they will never have a problem? Of course not, but I hope that if they do, their love for each other will always make them work their issues out.
Ahhh…once in a while it is good to remind yourself that you are doing a good job because sometimes life has a way of just moving along. I am glad that my eyes are open enough to notice these things. These little things are some of the most important things in life.
I love you babies. You are my world and I thank you for always keeping my eyes open and my feet firmly on the ground.