Dads’ Resource Center helps single
dads navigate Father’s Day
STATE COLLEGE, Pennsylvania – (May
24, 2022) – According to the
U.S. Census Bureau, there are around 2 million single father's in the country.
Due to the way that the family court, county and social service systems operate
fathers are often not allowed to spend as much time with their children as they
would like following a separation or divorce. This includes Father’s Day.
"Father’s
Day can be brutally painful for noncustodial fathers”, said Dads’ Resource
Center Executive Director Jeffrey Steiner. “Many do not even get the
opportunity to be with their children for Father’s Day. For those that do, it
can be bittersweet as they are able to cherish some time with their sons and
daughters, while also being reminded of all that they are missing out on and
how unnecessary and hurtful the custody battle is to them and their children.”
It is not
unusual for a noncustodial father to be unable to spend time with his children
on Father’s Day. It can take a very long time to even have the opportunity to
revise a standing custody order, and there can be provisions that counter act
one another. An order that sets aside Father’s Day for the dad can be over
ridden by a provision giving each parent a week of summer vacation if the
mother schedules her vacation the week of Father’s Day. Courts are also
reluctant to enforce violations of custody orders by mothers.
Some of the
fathers who are involved with the Dads’ Resource Center were asked to provide
tips for dealing with Father’s Day as noncustodial fathers struggling to be in
the lives of their children. Here were some of their responses:
Make the most of the time you get. “Treat every day you are with your kids like it’s Father’s
Day for you. For the kids make Father’s Day fun for them and it will be fun for
you
Be empathetic for your children. "Put
yourself in your children's position and try to be as understanding as
possible. They are stuck in the middle and can't show a lot of emotion. Don't
take offense if they don't act happy because they are in survival mode."
Make it about them. "I am happy in my house when they are happy. I just want
to give them refuge from this storm. So, if they want to be on their phone
talking with their friends, if they want to zone out and watch TV and that
makes them happy, I am happy."
For those fathers who are unable to spend Father’s Day with
their children:
Don’t get stuck on what day it is. "You have to treat Father's Day like any other day. Then
create your own Father’s Day an evening during the week before or the weekend
before or after."
Be flexible and creative. "Stay connected in any way possible, even if it isn't
reciprocated."
Open your heart to other children. "I try to find ways to hang out with other kids,
like my nieces or nephews. Enjoying time with them makes me feel like a dad
again."
“Nothing is more devastating
to a man than being denied access to his children and being completely
powerless to do anything about it, “said Steiner. “But the children are the
ones who suffer the most in these situations. They are unnecessarily denied the
presence of their fathers and subjected to persistent tensions and
uncertainty.”
Dads' Resource Center was
established by Dr. Joel N. Myers, a father of eight and the founder and CEO of
AccuWeather. The mission is to help combat the issues associated with children
growing up without their fathers in the home. At its heart, the center is a
child advocacy organization that aims to ensure that each child has the
appropriate involvement and contributions from both parents.
About Dads’ Resource Center
The Dads' Resource Center is
committed to providing education, resources, and advocacy for dads who are
separated or divorced and are determined to uphold their sacred responsibility
as fathers. The Dads' Resource Center was founded by Dr. Joel N. Myers, the founder
and CEO of AccuWeather. His own experience as a single father led him to start
the group. To get more information, visit the site at: https://dadsrc.org.
# # #
Sources:
No comments:
Post a Comment
I love comments. Please feel free to leave a comment. I would love to talk to you further