Tuesday, May 02, 2017

Help In Understanding the Autistic Mind From The Inside: Behind the Locked Door by Paul Louden

Behind The Locked Door: Understanding My Life as an Autistic by Paul Louden 

Paperback: 124 pages   
Publisher: The Romano Group; 1 edition (February 8, 2017)  
Language: English 
ISBN-10: 0998255009 
ISBN-13: 978-0998255002
This book is more than a how-to manual; the material within allows others to create their own personalized road-map toward more empathic responses, better interactions, and deeper understanding of each other. Anecdotes from Paul and his parents provide an understanding of what it means to live with someone with a neurology different than your own.

The 411:

I was so interested in reading this. My son Handsome is on the Autistic Spectrum. I read all I can about autism. What is the best way to help my son succeed. How to communicate with him but none of the books have spoken to me as much as this one. Paul is speaking from a totally different place. He knows. He is not a doctor, therapist, educator, he is Autistic and he knows! He knows from a place that no one else can. He is speaking how my son would speak if he could. 

The Chapters are:

1. Introduction: Out of the Darkness
2. Overview: General Insights on Autism  
  • What We Perceive and Experience
  • It's a Spectrum  What Does That Mean?
  • When We Need A Break, We Really Need It, 
  • There Is No Gray - It's Black or It's White
3. Flexibility: 
  • Rules Are Rules
  • Gray = Anxiety
4. Appearance and Hygiene
5. Episodic Memory: 
  • Memory of Emotions 
  • Emotions - Do We Have Them?
6. Motivation:
  • What Motivates Me
  • Building Up To Get Motivated and Pacing to Stay Motivated
  • Understanding My Limits - When To Temporarily Withdraw and Recharge
7. Communication:
  • A Different Way of Communicating
  • Language and Communication

8. Social Interactions:
  • Be Yourself or Fit In?
  • The Bucket Theory
9. Family:
  • The Family Bond - I Don't Get It
  • Teaching Values

10. Friendship
  • What Is A Friend?
  • Sarcasm
11. School
  • School Can Be Tough
  • If It's Implied - I Probably Won't Get It
 12. Romance
  • It's Not Like The Movies
  • Sating
  • Dating Expectations - We May Need Some Guidance
  • Special Relationships Are Possible
 13. Work

14. Therapy
  • Focus On Quality Of Life
  • There Is No Timeline; Progress is Two Steps Forward and One Step Back
  • Anxiety and Depression
15. Disclosure
  • I Have Autism - Who Do I Tell and When
  • Disclosure is About Self-advocacy

16. Conclusion

If you have a child with Autism you can already tell from the chapters this is a must read. My son is 13, soon to be 14 and I have thought about all of this in regards to my son.

What does he REALLY understand?
Will he ever have friends?
Will he go to college, have a job, a relationship?

My son is so many of these things and NOT because like they say if you know one autistic person you know one autistic person. There is no cookie cutter example of an autistic. My son knows when he needs to be alone and will say so. He is very much a creature of habit so much so that I know what time of day it is by what he is doing. He wants to follow the rules and wants everyone else to do so.  He doesn't understand sarcasm and hates jokes because he doesn't get them. He LOVES his family and loves his mommy and tells me every single day. He is amazing and I wish the rest of the world saw him as I do.

There were so many eye opening moments in this book and I believe this is a book for all parents, doctors and educators.  My son has a whole support system behind him at school and I know with every bit of my core there are still many of them that really don't get it. I wish I could gift this book to every single one of them. 

I will probably read this book at least another 10 times in the next two years. I love that Paul wrote this and thank him and his parents also featured in the book for the honesty and candidness.  

About Paul Louden:

Paul Louden is a noted public speaker, radio show host, and author of "Behind The Locked Door: Understanding My Life as an Autistic." As an adult on the autism spectrum, Paul is able to provide a unique perspective into the autistic mind.

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Disclaimer: I received a complimentary product for my honest opinion. My reviews are 100% honest and true based on my personal opinion not on a company’s description or request. I am not employed by any company I review for. No monetary compensation was received.

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